All posts filed under: Rant-ish

Let’s talk Rape Culture…AGAIN

Today, I woke up really pissy but my mood improved when a dear friend, posted his excitement about the new trailer for Pacific Rim: Uprising and I jetted off to youtube to check it out. John Boyega, Jing Tian, the music, the graphics, the jaegers–all of it lifted my spirits so high I felt as if I could float. Then I got to the news and my spirits just crashed. It seems more and more these days, I find myself absolutely flabbergasted about the things people with money get away with. From Brock Turner who got off free after raping an unconscious woman behind a dumpster, to Donald Trump grabbing women “by the pussy” to Harvey Weinstein admitting, on tape, to groping a European Model, all of it absolutely gets to me and leave me wondering when had society become such a haven for rape. To make matters worse, we’ve become so desensitized to the whole traumatic experience that we’ve began blaming the victims. First, let me say this. No one, man or woman, deserves …

Just another victim on the hit-list

I try not to get political, because the world is in such a state where two people can’t have a civilized conversation without it turning nasty.  But there are some rare occasions when I have to blink and just say something.  Recently, the currently US government declared that they were going to stop trans men and women from service in the United States Military. And there are those who agree with this and they don’t see the issue here. Before I get into that, might I remind you that the draft system is not a thing in the United States anymore? These men and women are serving so your children don’t have to. They are serving so that you can be a coward behind the keyboards and talk shit about them. They serve, basically, to protect your right to hate them. That’s the kind of society we live in. We return people’s kindness and generosity by ripping the rug out from under them. Also, keep in mind that these men and women (I am not …

Again…Suicide

Chester, lead singer to Linkin Park is dead. How? He hung himself. Okay, let’s get this out of the way for those of you who are easily offended. Yes, I get that when it comes to drugs and alcohol and celebrity–the struggle is real. Hell, it’s one of the realest struggles most of these people will ever have to face. Yes, I understand its more than just a little hard. Yes, I get that most of them don’t seek the help they should or even if they do, the ‘yes men/women’ around them does not help with finding sobriety. Yes, I get all of these things. But…oh yes, there shall be a but… After his death, a whole slew of articles and facebook and twitter status began cropping up about “RIP Chester” and “Gone too soon” and “He passed away…” No. No, he didn’t “pass away.” We’re in a society where every thing offends us. I think if we stop being so damned offended all the time we could actually save some lives. Stop saying …

Suicide

Hi everyone, For those of you who are personal involved with me, you know I am a big supporter of helping those who suffer from a mental illness or contemplating suicide that sort of thing. I read this article where it seems the newest trend among teenager is suicide by cop. Now, for those who have no idea what that mean, let me try and explain it as best I can. Suicide by cop is when someone points a gun at a police officer, ignore all warnings to drop the weapon and the cops are then forced to shoot the person.  So far, there have been two cases that I’ve read about–one in San Diego and one in L.A. Both these teenagers left suicide notes. Now, I hear people asking “why did they have to kill the kid?” “Couldn’t they shoot the kid in the leg or the arm?” ” Can’t the cops tell a fake fun from a real one?” These are all valid questions. I don’t know the answers to two of these …

BT Urrela – One hot mess

I’m 33 years old. And I have been a part of the romance writing community longer than BT Urrella. And this post isn’t about name calling or anything like that – there might be some shade but it cannot be helped. When BT Urrela first came to my attention, it was through Michael Stokes. No one does the male body better than Mr. Stokes. I didn’t care that BT was an amputee –  a gorgeous man is a gorgeous man and believe me he is beautiful to look at – but apparently, from what I’ve been reading, he may be good to look at but he can be a bit of a prick. Before I get to that – I also watched him on the television show Coupled and from what I saw, I thought for sure he was a pretty decent guy. With that said, when I found out I could buy his picture for book covers, I was over the moon! I didn’t care how much they cost. I was determined to save …

#BellLetsTalk day – A day for Mental Health

Today, January 25th is #BellLetsTalk day. For those of you who have no clue what that is, all day today, Bell (a communications giant in Canada) will be donating money toward funding programs for Mental illness. Today, I do my part by tweeting the heck out of the hashtag #BellLetsTalk hastag. This year, they even have a video of Howie Mandel encouraging people to tweet and for each time the video is viewed, bell will donate an additional 5 cents to the cause. Now, some of you may be reading this and thinking 5 cents? What can that do? Think about it. If this video is viewed 5 million times that’s 250, 000 dollars atop what is racked up from the views. That’s 250,000 that the cause did not have before. There are a couple of things that irritated me about today so far which I’m not going to get into. I’m just going to say, trying to sell bagel while “celebrating Bell Lets Talk” its not cool and being pissed at bell because your province/town/city …

NCIS- My Annoyance Runneth Over

Lets be honest, JAG went off air before I even moved to this country so for me, it was playing catch up. The moment I first saw Harm in his uniform I couldn’t stop drooling. Then I fell in love with Mac and prayed that they would wind up together. I watched every episode during reruns–all two hundred and twenty something of them. Yes, I am that big of a nerd. And while the cast wasn’t all that diverse, I supported this show because David James Elliot was Canadian and I began supporting Canadian talent ever since my first drama class in this country. The storylines were amazing, the characters had solid backgrounds, the acting was well not all the time stellar but I enjoyed ever moment of the show. Then I found out the show was over and I began hunting for another to fill the void JAG left behind. This was before youtube where you can now go on and watch Mac and Harm kiss over and over and flail each time you …

Eating Healthy is the runs–seriously

As most of you know, I’m a bigger girl. And for the most part I’m  happy with it but I decided to get back into big girl sexy–you know? Curve up a little. I’m not trying to be skinny but healthy. Anyway, at the end of September, a friend of mine always post on facebook that “The first day of the month is coming – It’s never too late to start over.” I decided to use my reset for October and eat healthy. I live on my own now so I can now control the food that comes into my apartment and thus into my body. When I go grocery shopping, I make a shopping list and I have a snack before venturing out so I don’t buy crap. So, in my house right now there is no junk food. No juice, no bagel, no sugar, no flour – I have rice but I bought that a month ago so when I have guests I can cook something “normal” for them.  So, for the past five …

New Brunswick – Why?

For years, while working at the other place, the only vacation I had was during the summer months when I went to Ottawa for the RTC convention (and that was only once) and in December when I hit the good-ole-US-Of-A to visit my sister. I didn’t have vacation time so all the time I took off was unpaid so I really had to dig in and just go. This burned me out something horrible. Anyway, recently my sister (one of them) calls me up telling me she was in New Brunswick and instantly I decided to go visit. My mom decided to tag along and I figured we could have a mother daughter thing, it’d be great. So, I shoved around some things and worked it out that I could go and began plotting. Soon, flight was booked and later hotel and we were ready to go. We would be landing in Moncton and staying there then we could figure out things to do until my sister could get from where she was to spend …

Surviving the TTC – Because blood pressure meds are expensive

When I was in high school, the Toronto Transit Commission had these ads with a TTC bus or streetcar or train parked in someone’s driveway. You couldn’t swing a dead cat without hitting one of these ads—hell they were even on the side of the TTC buses. It was their way of telling people to take the TTC and leave their cars at home. Now, I get what they were trying to do—boost ridership and get back some of the riders they lost and gained some new one. I get it. I understand PR because I studied the subject. But let me tell you, the few dollars you will save is not worth it. And think you will get to your destination on time taking the TTC? Think again. You might as well take the 401 and get stuck in traffic. Let’s begin. Timing, they say is everything. So let’s say you want to get to the Eaton Center. From Scarborough—let’s say the Guild, it should take roughly an hour. You did your due diligence …